Thirteen-Year-Old Comes Out To Class: “This Is Who I Am And I Make No Apologies.”


I’m Arwyn Heilrayne. I’m from Austin, Texas and I’m 13 and in the
seventh grade. Earlier this year, we had a substitute in
Spanish class. I had finished the assignment so she asked
me to write a story in Spanish. So I did and I wrote about a girl who got
married to another girl. I showed it to her and she read it and she
goes, “Hmm. Okay. So could you maybe write a different story?” I was a little confused and I didn’t really
know what to do with that. So I wrote another story like she asked. But that was just sort of – it made me think,
like, what was wrong with that? I realized that some of the people in my school
might not be as accepting as they showed and said they were. In one of my classes, we had an assignment
to write an autobiography about ourselves. And so – my mom is gay and married to another
woman – and so I included that. But I didn’t know whether to include my sexuality
and my identity, because that is part of my autobiography, but I was a little nervous
because we would have to present these to the class and I didn’t know how my class would
react. I’d come out to a few of my friends and
I’d just come out as bi because I didn’t really know what else – because I knew that
that was a label that most of them would know and understand, and I didn’t really want to
have to explain. But even just with bi, I did have to explain
to some people, and that made me even a little more nervous. Some of my other classmates in their reports
had gone through some pretty hard stuff as they were kids. It was a totally different topic, but they
were still able to stand up there and tell their stories. And so I saw that really helped the class. And so I thought that maybe – I realized that
my story can help too and telling my real story could help, and that I could do that. And I decided this while sitting at my desk
preparing for my presentation. So I walked up to the front of the class to
present my report and I was terrified. My hands were shaking. I was so nervous. But I decided to do it and I was going to
go through with this. So I talked about me as a baby and, you know,
that kind of staff, and then talked about my mom and getting married to this other woman
and my feelings about that. And then I started talking about last year
and when I realized that I was actually part of this LGBT+ community that I’d heard about,
and how weird that was for me. And just a blank stares I got back from my
classmates – the classmates that I’d come out to – because I’d been out to a few before
this, but only like 3 or something – they were like, “Oh my god, she’s just – like,
she’s saying this! Like what…” And then the other classmates, some of them
were like, “Oh, okay.” And some of them, I just noticed, were like,
“What is happening? Like, what is she saying? “What…” And my teacher – so I finished talking, I
finished… my teacher just, like, stared at me and then she was like, “Okay. Is there anyone else that wants to present?” And after everyone else, she’d been like,
“Oh, good job. That was a great report.” And then with me, she was just like, “Okay. Next?” So I kind of got the feeling that my teacher
was sort of – didn’t really know what to do with me anymore. And afterwards, when I was on my way to my
next class, one of my best friends came up to me and she was like, “I’m going to
give you a hug. That was really brave of you. Good job!” But also other people came up to me and were
like, “What? So what’s happening with you?” And I was like, “So I’m bi.” And they were like, “What is that?” And I was a little like, “Okay…” I think that it was probably and is going
to be beneficial for my class to have heard that story, my story, and know that even among
us, like we’re a pretty small group, but still I know, I’m pretty sure that later in
life for maybe even next week some – another one of my classmates is going to realize that
they’re also not straight or cis or whatever. And so I just, I hope that this story and
me being brave enough to do that will help them. But I also think it really helps me to realize
that I can tell them, that I can tell them who I am and be who I am. It was – I think it’s been really good for
me to actually stand up there in front of the class and say, you know, “I am who I
am and, you know, I make no apologies. This is who I am. If you don’t understand that, I’m happy
to help you understand that, but I’m not going to change. This is me.”

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  4. I honestly only came out to 4 of my friends and I can’t tell my parents my mom has lesbian friends but I’m scared to tell her that I’m bi

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    Be who you are, no matter what. We have more problems in the world than boys kissing boys.

  6. My mom says I am too young to know my sexuality, I am bi and 11. My best friend is pan and she came out when she was 9, I wish my mom was more open

  7. figuring out my sexuality stages:

    strait
    gay
    bi
    gay
    pan
    gay
    bi

    FUCK IT IDK IM QUEER

    god, i hope people i know irl don’t see this comment 😂 i’m not out

  8. I thought I was straight…. but then, cute girls. So cool I’m bi I guess…. nopeeee! Cute everyone. Long story short, I’m really just into girls, so here I am at 1am being a femme lesbian hiding my gay in the closet 🙃

  9. I'm just gonna be this one, Christian who thinks God made Gay, and I'm Pan but my parents FREAKING THINK I'M CONFUSED and that "it's just puberty you have a lot of emotions and shiz" NOPE I know I'm pan bishes shush

  10. So I'm a lesbian, and I told my friends that I sit with and know really well. And one of them is bi and she said she liked me, and I like her, and now we are together

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    LOVE IS LOVE

  12. I'm not sure if this is true but my Pansexual friend, I'll call her Sasha, she is so lovely, <3 she had said ` Bi means anyone who only defines as a girl/female or boy/Male, ` Pan meaning any and all.

  13. I’m not brave enough to tell my parents I’m bi let alone my class!!

    My parent are my grandparents just they adopted me so-

  14. Wow, she is so brave! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💚💙💜❤️❤️🧡💛💚💙💙💜

  15. My Brain: I thought I was a lesbian, then I thought maybe demi, possibly asexual, then probably bi, no wait I'm Pan
    Me: Shut the fuck up and pick one already

  16. I started year 8 today (I think that’s grade 7) and I was having a bad day until I walk into my new history teachers classroom and she has a pride flag in it! And I was like ommiiii gawwwddd

  17. I hate it when people say that learning about the LGBT will turn kids gay.
    I mean, I learnt about Bonnie and Clyde. I have yet to rob people with my girlfriend.

  18. We were writing I am and I am not statements and putting them on sticky notes and on the board in circles. I wrote I AM NOT STRAIGHT and one of the MD teachers, who openly talks about his husband, came in to help with a student (his son) with ADHD and the classwork and read it out. He said, "Good for you." In a really sincere way and kept going.

  19. Wow. Sad, tragic, story. No father liberal LGBT propagandist mother. Immoral, weak, role models, kid's brainwashed. Never had a chance for a normal, healthy, life. Lots of therapy regrets ahead. Kid's an arrogant brat.

  20. Im pan and non-binary and some of my friends know. Im coming out when I go to a gaming convention and go by myself to buy a pan flag coloured scarf. Yeeee

  21. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
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    ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

  22. I’m am lesbian too! 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

  23. 💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚👚
    Щ еозбр юг юлю за плати

  24. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

  25. Im a lesbian 👭👌🌈💕
    I came out through a song, to my whole class

    L.ook, you are
    G.reat! And you should just
    B.e who you are! Cause no one should live in
    T.he closet! Trust me you are a
    Q.ueeeen!
    +. I am proud (of you (and myself) ) ❤

  26. 13 isn't too bad of an age to be identifying which gender or sexual orientation you are tbh. At least she's not in skimpy clothing twerking for money or getting injected with hormone blockers before puberty. She actually seems like a classy girl that just wants to be herself. I just hope she doesn't get picked on, mixed up with the wrong people, taken advantage of or commit suicide.

  27. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
    💜💙💚💛🧡❤
    ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
    💜💙💚💛🧡❤
    ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
    💜💙💚💛🧡❤
    ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
    💜💙💚💛🧡❤

  28. You ain’t special, i came out in 5th by yelling it at a rally when the whole gymnasium was quiet

    Edit: this is a joke btw but that is how I came out lmao

  29. my cousin has the shirt shes wearing, also, this really helped me if we ever have to do something like that in class i am going to try and be brave and do what she did and tell my classmates that i am pan

  30. I wish I was a sister to someone so then I could say
    “I may be a sis but I’m not a cis”
    But I’m just some random gay guy and not a female lesbian
    Oh well

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