How to Empower Your Clients

hello it’s Lisa Turner here from Psycademy and today I thought I would share with you some ideas about how you
can empower your clients so if you are a healer coach therapist holistic
therapist practitioner I don’t know whatever word you want to use so um I
have drawn on my fingers today so okay so this is because we need a
demonstration right so there are various ways that we can that we can work with
clients of various models and I’m not gonna kind of label them like I’m not
gonna like I’m not gonna like give them a name they’re just some ways of working
with clients that I’ve seen hi Shannon good to see you welcome so oh and if you
have any questions put them in the chat box and I will answer them even if it’s
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benefit from this so so this is just like I don’t know if there’s a
particular type of therapy that does any of these things they’re just some things
I’ve observed as I’ve noticed people working with clients so the first is
this kind of method and and it and it can happen in a lot of groups and it can
particularly happen and this might be if you run groups you might notice that
people in your groups kind of do this hi Deb’s welcome right so you have somebody
and they’ve got a problem and you can tell they got a problem because they’ve
got a sad face right and the person has the problem and the person said you know
the person starts saying I’ve got a problem I’ve got problem and then the
coach or the client or the coach or the practitioner I don’t recall it like this
person smiley face right they say oh no you have a really bad problem that’s a
really bad problem ID problem like that oh no that sounds terrible oh well you
never better get over there oh my good and they’re like oh let me empathize
with you let me sympathize let me let’s talk about how bad it is and then what
happens is you get this and then you might get a whole bunch of people all
together should have drawn more faces on my fingers all together kind of getting
together creating this vortex of how terrible things are yeah and they’re the
person is still stuck with the problem hi Clare welcome you’ll like this one
cliff okay so there the first one so practice oh kind has a
problem excuse me Klein is the problem and the you know either other people in
the group your group or even the leader of the group or a coach or a you know a
coach doesn’t typically do this but a lot of I’ve seen a lot of therapy type
people people working in this way do this so they go over there and they go
oh my god it was really terrible tell me about how terrible is tell me again how
terrible is why don’t you talk more about how terrible isn’t so this person
who’s got the problem they just talk and talk and talk about the story and then
they you know it doesn’t really create new resolution and and some this really
interesting scientific research that has suggested that people who have this kind
of and it’s sometimes called counseling but this kind of work or they just did a
group therapy where they just sit around and relive the horrific moments of their
childhood it actually makes it worse and it makes it worse somewhere somewhere so
that’s the one we don’t do that it’s like enemy so that’s the first one then
there’s the second one where you’ve got the person with a problem and then you
have a coach I’ve seen this a lot I don’t know like if it’s a training
that’s going on or something or if it’s just like a like a narrative that’s like
the way of thinking and maybe it’s the positive thinking movement and it’s this
so person’s got the problem oh I’m so sad and the coach says hey think happier
thoughts you don’t have that problem you can do it I believe in you you’re
fantastic just say to yourself how great I am and the miserable person is gonna
go I’ve still got the problem on Noro you need to think happier think happier
thoughts and and you and so the coach will kind of almost deny the reality of
the person I’m saying no you don’t have that problem pretend you don’t have that
problem just try harder and then what kind of happens is like this person is
like I better talk about the problem and they’re going oh just think happier
think happier because okay okay I’ll try the reason you’re stopping is you just
not thinking happy enough you let my little my little finger puppets right I
could do a whole puppet show on this maybe I’ve got a new career as a
puppeteer right okay so that’s the second time and we see this a lot and
we’re you know it’s like just say your affirmations think happier and and like
it might temporarily have the person go okay it’s okay but as soon as the coach
is gone they’re drowning again alright okay so we don’t do that in Psych Adam
II here’s what we do in Psych Adam and here’s what we train our spiritual
practitioners to do with our karmic alignment so Klein has a problem
practitioner goes whoa okay that sounds bad
let me come up let me find you let me find where you are let me find where you
are let me find me okay keep talking keep talking and the last lots of
directed questionings and they’ll be okay
no no don’t talk about the story just keep just keep telling me your name just
you know just keep calling out I found you I found you I’ve got you okay now
where do you want to go like anywhere but here okay no we need somewhere
specific where you want to go okay I want to go over there how do you want to
feel I won’t feel like that okay what do you wanna be able to do I won’t be able
to do that okay so let me take your hand and we’re gonna go there together and
then and what happens is look at that and the day is saved I’m trying to get
this in camera so then the client has the solution the practitioner has helped
them out of the quicksand but without denying the problem and how do they do
that well they do that because the coach has spiritual practitioners have
really powerful tools they have the ability to find exactly where the client
is yeah exactly where the client is and how the problem is constructed and it’s
not about the story the practitioner has the ability and the bravery and the
courage to take the client there and to find out how they got there not why they
got there but how they got there so that they can find the how to get out using
those tools and those techniques so I know that was just my little thought for
the day those three kind of models the first model is I’m struggling you’re
right it’s terrible let’s struggle together let’s talk about how bad it is
tell me again how bad it is counseling maybe I don’t know I wouldn’t wanna put
a label on it I think that’s kind of what counseling when I had counseling um
i had i had psychotherapy that’s what that looked like so that’s the first one
let’s just talk about our terrible it is then there’s the second one
no it’s not terrible you can do it I believe in you just speak you know think
more happily happy thoughts and the client you know client still says but
I’m still drowning no no no you just not think you happy enough then there’s the
one that we’re what we do in Psych Adam II let’s go let me find you let me find
you okay I’ve got you I’ve got you okay right where do you want to go let’s go
out of here let’s go out of here and just trying to get smiley face there we
are wow that was great now I know who I am now I feel fantastic
yes you’re so welcome anytime yay oh yeah that was my puppet show of
the afternoon so what do you think have you noticed this how are you working
with your clients have you had clients and here’s the other thing you might get
clients that will do this like you’ll go as a practitioner who go the clown go
it’s terrible and you’ll say it’s okay I’m coming to find you no you can’t find
me you can tell me no I’m telling you my terribleness is real
Jody you’ll like this one you’ll have to go and watch the beginning so so have
you noticed that you’re noticed sometimes the client would like argue
like no I’m stuck here and you’ll be there no no we can get out of here no I
have to stay here or whatever they think and then you’ll go work you can stay
here but I’m not and I’m out of here and then the client will go wait wait wait
take me with you and then the client leaves the quicksand
and yes how do you climb happy client so are you creating happy clients getting
them out the quicksand are you getting them out quick enough because sometimes
you know sometimes the client will want to be here saying no let me tell you
again what happened it’s like I don’t wanna know what happened I just want to
get you out so how is that working for you how’s that like what are you
noticing have you noticed this have you noticed coaches doing this with you any
of these three models I know what we call it the I know I’ll think of a
better I think of a good name for this so I hope you enjoyed my puppet show if
you did let me know let me know and if you liked it and you want to if you
think somebody else will benefit from this or just find it interesting share
it if you liked it click the lovey button and I will see you how am I gonna
do one next week I might do one next week let me know what you’d like me to
do I’ll put a post in the group alrighty till next time lots lots of love bye for

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