10 Books You Need to Read ๐Ÿ“š


(upbeat New Age music) – Hey everyone, it’s your girl
Jen, and today we are doing a book update. It’s been officially a year
since my last book update, and so I thought I would fill you guys in on my favorite books of 2019. I was doing some reflection
a couple weeks ago, and I actually numbered out all the books that I read last year, and it was 42. For me, that is a staggering number, I have never ever read this
many books in my lifetime. But any-hoo, today we’re
gonna be whittling it down to the top 10, so let’s get started. So my first book is
“Essentialism”, by Greg Mckeown. I picked this book up
because I have always been the type to feel
overwhelmed, and burnt out, and spread thin, and I
think it’s because I’ve had this mentality of just, “power through it, grit your teeth, and suck it up,” and I thought that that was the way I can just get everything done. But, it’s not a very
sustainable mentality. There are some things
you just gotta say no to. I had a problem just really
prioritizing what was important and what was
essential in my life, and I feel like this book really gave me the right tools, and the strategies, to float up what is the most priority, and finish those top things. I’ve learned that sometimes doing the most isn’t the greatest thing,
and it’s important to spend your time on the right
activities and the right people so you feel more fulfilled. Being busy all the time
doesn’t mean that you’re being productive, so if you
are the type of person that just wants to Marie Condo their mind, or just learn how to use
their time more efficiently, I would highly recommend this book. In 2019 Brene Brown became one of my most favorite inspirational people. If you have not seen her
TED Talk on vulnerability, I highly recommend you go check it out, but I read “Daring Greatly”,
which is just a deep dive of the vulnerability movement, and how you can live more wholeheartedly. It had a huge impact on my self esteem, and the way I connect with people, and I especially loved
the bit about empathy. So she describes empathy as
“connecting with the emotion “that someone is
experiencing, not the event or the circumstance.” A lot of the times when
someone is opening up to us, or sharing an
experience that they’ve had, I think a common misconception is, “oh, I can’t be empathetic to that because that has never happened to me.” For example, let’s say your friend’s like, “oh my God, I went to work
today, and I shat my pants.” Maybe you have not shat
your pants at work, however I’m pretty sure we’ve all felt the emotion of shame, and
embarrassment, and that emotion is what we need to connect with. This book gave me a glimpse
on how I can live more unapologetically, and
just live more freely, and it’s definitely a book
that I want to re-read because it’s something
that I wanna keep fresh on my mind, constantly. So my next book is “Outliers”
by Malcolm Gladwell. And I know this book
came out a long time ago, I actually first read it when I was 18. It completely blew my mind,
but it’s been over 10 years, and I was like, “you know what? It’s time to read it again, let’s see.” I read it, and it blew my mind again, and so now it’s on my list. So this book is about
outliers, and outliers are the most successful,
the most intelligent, most athletic, just the best
of the best in the world and that’s why they’re the outliers. And a lot of the self made
outliers, we look at them and we’re like, “damn,
you did the damn thing.” And yes, that is a huge
factor, they did put in so many hours. Malcolm Gladwell says
that you need to put in roughly 10,000 hours to master a craft, and that is a lot of hours, a lot of time, I can’t even compute how
many years 10,000 hours is, but it’s a ton. But regardless, we look at
these people like The Beatles, or Bill Gates, and we’re like, “wow.” However, Malcolm Gladwell
starts digging a little bit deeper and he starts
to point out patterns, and circumstances, that
have happened, to have them elevated up to that level. So he defines an outlier as
“those who have been given “opportunities and who
have had the strength and presence of mind to seize them.” So, obviously, putting in the
10,000 hours is a big one, but there are other things to consider, like when you were born,
how long you’ve had a headstart on starting something, what your parents have, your ethnicity. There’s a string of fortunate incidents and circumstances that have
happened that have attributed to their success. So he uses Bill Gates as an example. He’s wildly rich, wildly successful, incredibly smart, however there
are some things to consider. So, Bill Gates was born
at a time where computers were just starting to get big, they were pretty rare, and very expensive. A computer was the size of a room. And his parents just
happened to have a computer in their house. So Bill Gates started to
tinker around with it, learn how to code slowly,
and then when he turned 13, his parents funded a computer club. So he had unlimited
access to these computers, with all his computer
friends, and they just coded. And Bill Gates just got
consumed into coding, and learning, and he started
to put in his 10,000 hours a lot earlier than everybody else. So by the time the
computer started booming, he already had this incredible knowledge about this subject that a lot of people didn’t have access to. If his parents didn’t
have the money to give him one of the first computers,
he probably wouldn’t be Bill Gates. And having a headstart is
a huge thing to consider in every type of craft. If you look at all the early tech tycoons, they’re all born at the same year. Bill Joy, Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, there’s absolutely a
pattern here, and this book just does an in depth
review and analysis on that, and I found it fascinating. Speaking of technology,
we’re gonna move on to our next book, which
is called “Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive
Technology” by Adam Alter. I feel like so many of us
are addicted to our screens. You are watching this on
your phone, or your laptop, or your TV, wherever, we are glued. And I have an alarming statistic. “In 2008, adults spent
an average of 18 minutes “on their phones a day. “In 2015 adults spent two hours and 48 minutes per day.” I do not know what the
updated statistics is for the year 2020, but I’m
sure it has skyrocketed. I feel like some people might see it as a fault in themselves, being “oh my gosh, I can’t get off my phone, I
have no willpower, I am weak.” But, the people behind this
technology, it’s their job to make it addicting as. And this book just gave me clear examples, and just peeled my eyes
back on what is happening behind the people that are
making this technology. So, in 2010, Steve
Jobs, God rest his soul, had a talk about the Ipad, and it was just this really long talk convincing everybody why they needed an Ipad. And then later on in 2010,
a New York Times article came out and Steve Jobs
said that he doesn’t let his children use the Ipad. I just found it interesting
that the very thing that he was convincing
everyone needs to use, is something that he doesn’t even let his children use. A lot of the people
producing these tech products avoid the very thing that they’re selling, and it’s because they know
that shit’s addicting. And he also explains these
boundaries we can create in the technology space, so
I found it very interesting. So my next book is called
“Sapiens”, it is actually the only book, the real
tangible book I have, because I read the rest on Kindle, or I listen to it on
Audible, but I actually got this book at an airport, and it was truly the best decision I’ve made. This is one very thorough
book about the history of human existence. It’s like if all your history,
and your anthropology classes had a baby, it would be this book. I absolutely love just
her clear descriptions, and also her commentary, and
it just really reminded me of all the things that I
forgot in all those classes that I learned. It’s been a very long time
since I’ve been in school, so if I don’t have a refresher,
I will not remember it. It was just really nice
to be re-informed about the history and the
existence of homo sapiens, and it was very impressive to see how we, as a collective unit, were able to just completely dominate the planet. We have been killin’ it
for a very long time. Literally and figuratively. We are the only species
that know how to work as a unit, with tools,
and to be able to expand and it explains why in
such a short period of time we have been able to
just bulldoze, and create all these agricultural revolution, and industrial revolution. We’ve been freaking on it, and this book just highlights all of that. It’s very alarming to see
how rapidly this has all been going, we have the
capacity to completely destroy the planet, however
we have the capacity to completely save the planet. It’s kind of like the Spider-Man quote, “with great power comes
great responsibility.” I have hope for us. So now we’re gonna move
on to some fiction. I have to talk about “The
Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo”. This book was so good, I read it twice. I literally finished it and I
was, “I’m gonna hit it again.” I was trying to chase
the high from reading it the first time, and honestly
the second time was really good because I got to catch some
things that I didn’t notice in the first run. It’s about Evelyn Hugo, who is an icon, the Hollywood icon of the
1950s all the way to the 1980s, and with just wild fame comes
some scandals along the way. So she’s had seven husbands,
and she’s been very tight lipped with it her entire life, but the book starts when
she’s pretty much 70, and she’s old, and so now
she’s ready to talk about it, and she does not hold back. The tea is hot, it’s got everything. It’s actually a very progressive read, there’s a lot of visibility from race, sexuality, and I think that’s something really refreshing to see,
especially in a mainstream book. I mean, maybe I’ve just been in the dark with what kind of books
to read, but I loved this. If you guys have any
recommendations that are similar to this book, and have the
visibility and representation, please let me know. Evelyn Hugo is unfortunately
a fictional character, but she is real in my heart. Evelyn Hugo is a character
inspired by Marilyn Monroe, Elizabeth Taylor, and if
you’ve ever been fascinated of that whole old Hollywood lifestyle, and what it was like to
be there, read this book, you will be teleported in. So if you guys know me, you all know that I love me a thriller. For my thriller recommendation I have “Final Girls” by Riley Sager. This one is definitely
a read to just pack on a trip, if you’re on the
plane, and you just want time to fly by, definitely give this a read. It’s about this girl
named Quincy, and she, this is not a spoiler,
by the way, this happens right from the jump, but
Quincy is the sole survivor of this mass murder. She was at a cabin trip with her friends, and then this killer came
and killed all her friends, except for her, so
she’s the lone survivor, and that’s why she’s called a final girl. And there’s only a few
final girls in the world, and they almost talk to
each other, because no one can really fully, fully
understand what it’s like to be in that position. It’s like a reverse murder mystery. The killing already happened,
now we’re just trying to figure out who killed who. So now we’re gonna finish
things off with some memoirs. I wanna talk about “Hunger” by Roxane Gay. This is the book to read
if you have ever struggled with body issues, body
image, and even self doubt. This was one of the
most honest and powerful memoirs I’ve read, because it was so raw. And a lot of her, the
themes about self doubt, I felt like she was boiling
down the doubts that I have in my head, but into text. And just eloquently written. So the author is someone
in the category of super morbidly obese, but
hunger really opened up my eyes to the hardships that
they face from the stereotypes to the physical obstacles. It was just very enlightening. And just the part about the self doubt, I just really, really connected
with her on that level. Michelle Obama, she needs no introduction. When I think of her she’s the
definition of poise and grace and sometimes it’s easy to
forget that she’s just like all of us, she’s just a human. And I feel like after reading this memoir it just grounded her, and I just found it really inspiring to see her
work for what she’s earned. She’s been through a
lot, and I also found it very comforting to know
that Michelle and I actually have some things in common. For example, we both find huge comfort in preparation, and we
both love low light dinners with our mans. So, Michelle and I are
basically the same person. So my list recommendation is called “Dry” by Augusten Burroughs. I have been reading a lot
of books about sobriety, and this was my favorite overview of what alcoholism is like. This memoir is a journal he kept while he was in rehab,
and while he was out. And so he really does a
great job describing that insatiable desire for alcohol. And so, and he explains
what rehab was like, and how getting out of it was like, and then just seeing the
world through this stripped, raw, vision of how far you’ve gone down, and then just dealing with
that constant temptation of having a drink, and how
prevalent it is in our lives. So that’s his memoir in a nutshell, but I feel like this memoir
really stood out to me because of his writing style. He has got personality, he’s got sass, he’s got wit, and I just found
myself laughing through it, and I know it’s a sad topic, addiction, but I was laughing. But yeah, this book
definitely gave me a better perspective of what alcoholism is, and how to recover from it. All right guys, those
are my 10 favorite book recommendations of 2019. I cannot wait to crack open
some more books this year. My goal, by the end of
2020, is to read 52 books. Let’s slap on another 10. Let’s see if I can do it. I would love, love,
love, to get your guys’ book recommendations in
the comments down below. I think from this video
you guys get a good vibe of what I like. I wanna thank you guys
so much for watching, and I’ll see you guys
in the next one; bye. (lips kissing) (soft New Age music)

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